Get Rid of Toxic People!

I know you feel defeated, but life is still going on and therefore there is still time for change. Are you surrounded by negative people talking behind your back or gossiping about others? DROP THEM like their hot.

There is NO good that comes from keeping company with negative people. So, you think you will be lonely—you might be. But there are solutions to loneliness. Join a club, join a 12-step group, join another kind of support group, attend a small group or Sunday School class at a church. In these groups you will build friendships and experience acceptance. If you are too shy, then go online and start communicating with people in forums and online chats. Interact with other people’s blogs and get to know them personally.

What about your past? “What if new people don’t accept me?”
Yeah—I get you on that one. I have an ugly past too. No really, I do!
I spent over 20, of my 50, years away from God. During that time, I did ALMOST everything you can think of that people call sin and living immoral. So, have I got a past? —yep. I am not proud of it, but today I know I am 110% forgiven. I have worked hard to set things straight and to rebuild my life— so can you!!!

It starts with one small decision to do the right thing. Then give yourself credit for it and be proud. The rest of the world is not going to clap for you just because you did the right thing that is already expected of you. But YOU can clap for yourself. You alone know how hard doing the right thing (finally) is. Its one decision at a time, one day at a time, one moment at a time. Sometimes we must be our own cheerleader for quite a while before others join in with us. But they will start to respect us as we grow. Two things happen when we make good choices:
1) we start to respect ourselves and feel good enough to hang around a better group of people…and
2) respectable people start to respect us and want to hang out with us.

There is NO good reason to keep interacting with negative people as your main source of companionship.

Length of time and being “used to them” is NO excuse either.
Let’s say, you live without electricity. You’ve had to for years. You get up with the sun and use candles at night and in the darkness of storms. You eat bread, dry cereal, and fruit from cans. You charge your phone at the local library. You open windows for cooler air in summer if that is even possible… and cover the windows in winter. True—it sucks…. But Heyyou’ve been doing it a long time and you are used to it.

Are you trying to tell me you wouldn’t jump at the chance to have electricity if it was provided for you? Of course, you would!

No matter how long you have tolerated negative people and situations – if you have the choice and chance to change that for the better—why wouldn’t you?! So get to it!!

If you think you do have a great reason to stay intertwined with negative people as your main companionship….I’d love to hear your reason. Comment below. I truly want to understand.

Until Next Time~
Blessings, Kate

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  1. I enjoyed your post. I agree that it’s unhealthy to remain in abusive or toxic relationships, and that it is dangerous to remain in any relationship that threatens or causes emotional, spiritual, or physical harm. It’s an important skill set to establish personal boundaries for yourself to maintain your well-being, even if that means creating distance between existing relationships that are destructive to you. Similarly, I believe we need to take a look in the mirror and make sure we are not contributing to “toxicity” in other people’s relationships as well. Not only should we limit negative influences coming into our lives, we need to be sure we are not the source of any negative influence in someone else’s life. I respected how willing you were to share your insights, and I agree that we need to ourselves project the attitudes and behaviors we desire to attract.

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    1. Angela– you are such a neat person! I enjoy reading your blogs and your updates. You already are know you are best around positive people because you are very self-aware. Thanks for taking the time to read this post.
      Kate

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  2. Some facts I learned years ago is we receive what we tolerate and we attract what we are. That said, when I notice a toxic relationship slipping into my life, I think:
    1. What am I putting out into the world that I don’t see? I figure this out by looking at the toxic trait. Let’s say it’s constant blaming. I’ll consider have I been blaming others or myself? Have I been avoiding accepting responsibility for pain?
    2. Why am I tolerating this and for how long have I been?

    Then I have a discussion with the person and nip it quickly. If the person doesn’t see the issue, I let them know we need to take a break and I will be backing off. My life, my rules, my sanity. Only God can tell me to stay in a bad relationship. But if we look to Christ He only had one toxic relationship and that is the one that was directly related to His purpose and He kept him at arm’s length. Close enough to sell him out; not close enough to harm Him before His time was here. We should all follow that leading.

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    1. I just started to do this 2 years ago with real intensity: (you said)…
      1. What am I putting out into the world that I don’t see?
      It has made a big difference in taking responsibility for my life and surroundings.

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      1. I agree. The first time I had to do it was humbling… like on-the-floor-repenting-for-my-behavior type humbling because I couldn’t believe I’d been like that and didn’t see it. When you start there, it definitely gets easier!! It takes strength but it’s worth it.

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